It’s funny how social media brings us all together yet pushes us all far apart, isn’t it? Not in an amusing way either. You’ve surely gotten a case of FOMO (fear of missing out) yourself when it was your weekend with the kids and you had to miss out on an event you wanted to attend but couldn’t get a babysitter.
If our kids are on social media, guess what? They also experience FOMO too. And that FOMO makes them feel lonely, envious, and depressed, not to mention it tanks their social skills. To keep us all from sinking into the dark and murky depths of FOMO, we’ve got to live in the now. Setting a good example for our kids, with social media as well as everything else, is the key to helping them find their own happiness without
For both you and your kids, to get out of that FOMO funk, here are some things you can do to make a positive change.
1. Take a break
There’s a whole great world out there you know. Put down the devices and go somewhere with the kids. Take them to the park and go for a walk. Pack a picnic. Don’t allow any phones and only carry yours in case of emergency. Don’t look at it at all during your time together. Create many moments like this and both you and your kids will forget about that virtual reality and live in the real reality, which is far better than what we all think we’re missing out on.
2. Build your connections to each other
When it comes to teens, we know they think we’re all horribly unhip. But they secretly want to spend that time with us, and they need that time with us too. Encourage your kids to build real, live relationships with the people in their lives, from their other parent to their grandparents and to their cousins and friends. This is the stuff that will make lasting memories in time, not that blur of a newsfeed from long ago.
3. Get involved with helping others
You know what gets both kids and adults out of a FOMO funk? It’s stepping back out of our privileged worlds and helping other people. Volunteer in the community together. Round up old toys, games, clothes and other things you don’t need and take them to your local homeless shelter. When you see how lucky you are to have the things you have, you won’t feel FOMO anymore and neither will your kids.
Taking these three steps together with your kids will open new doors for all of you. Do it regularly and you might just find that when you’re all home together, you’re all in for doing something in reality together, you know, just like the old days when we were kids ourselves.